Whatever stored in us as experience will last forever in our memory bank!
They often say that the past can be forgotten with time. And time heals a person’s wounds eventually. But what if this is not the truth? What if some damages in our lives can never be healed with the passage of time. Unless you do something about those wounds. We have been brainwashed into thinking that time heals us. But in reality, this is something that most people say to you as they want to bring comfort to you in times of distress. The past & future are two concepts that are well-connected with each other. A damaged person’s past is a part of his future and his or her present is defined by the choices s/he makes.
A tormented past mingles with a person’s life in ways one can’t imagine. A past trauma, incident or a mistake can actually become an active form of the hindrance in one’s life. And this is not just pertained to financial success or success in a career. A damaged past can also destroy your happiness and can put you under depression for a very long time. Like it is a well-known fact that childhood trauma can lead towards major psychological problems. But this definition doesn’t just apply to a person’s childhood. Even when you enter adolescence, this problem will persist.
What the researches have found
Stats indicate that nearly 70% of the population of United States have at least experience trauma in their past. This fact further claims that out of the 70% nearly 20% suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Stats also indicate in our country that nearly 800,000 Australians suffer Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. This is an alarming situation as this number represents a sizeable portion of the population of Australia. One cannot begin to fathom the number of people who are just in the initial stages of trauma. The truth is that nearly that more than 80% of Australians suffer from trauma in their life. And if you don’t have the will and determination to fight it out. Then one might become a PTSD sufferer. Hence, a trauma can become permanent in the future. This doesn’t mean you can’t fight it. There are plenty of inspirations in the world who have achieved success and came out from the darkness. There are also a lot of people who have faced trauma in their past and have been successful to live their life at its fullest. Here’s an example that might inspire you.
Oprah Winfrey has been an inspiration for a whole lot of people all over the world. But not a lot of people know that she lost her child when she was just fourteen. Furthermore, she was molested by her uncle, brother and her cousin. But she soon ran away from her family and house, leaving everything behind her. If we look at her life story, then she had a past that was painful and if she tried just to let the time heal. Then she wouldn’t have been at the same place as she is right now. She is one of the most famous people’s on the face of the earth, and people widely respect her. This is simply because of the fact that she fought willingly against her past demons and hence achieved success.
Letting go a Wounded Past
Oprah story was a great example of human’s strength for getting the best life for your happiness and success despite your past. Follow a path that ultimately changes your destiny.
There are many ways that can define your life again, here are a few:
Self-love: Self-love is an unconditional feeling of love, appreciation and acceptance for yourself. And what unconditional means, is that, no matter what you do, or fail to do, you always love yourself with the same passion.
Optimism: optimism is also an essential aspect of life. Optimism has to do with a person’s ability to see the bright side of things. It is the consciousness of not giving up on one’s self, it is believing that no matter how good it is now, the best is always yet to come.
Let it go: Convince yourself that the past doesn’t matter anymore. And it’s not going to disappear in a flash. You have to put in the effort to move on willingly.
Stop Victimizing yourself: Considering yourself a victim will not solve any of your problems. Stop blaming others for what’s happened to you.
The Present: Rejoice for what you have. There can always be a silver lining in the cloud. Consider your present as the ultimate opportunity. Just focus one day at a time!
Forgiveness: It all starts with the simple act of forgiveness. It is time to forgive whoever you think is responsible for your past.
Time doesn’t heal anything. It only makes you more prone to failure as you’re now used to your past traumas unconsciously. You make excuses on things that are not in your control. However, in the darkness, a single ray of light can illuminate a path for you. And this is what you really need to do for the happiness of your current day and on coming days.
Ha-Le Thai is an Amazon multiple bestselling author, international speaker, coach in parenting, health and wellness. Her work has appeared in WMAG, She society, 9 Honey, Female.com.au and many more. Ha-Le is living in Sydney, Australia.